When I first saw this post, I read it backwards. Of course, impatient angry words issued in haste can cause wounds in those who hear them. That is why we must be careful to sift negative thoughts and feelings before we speak. We all respond best to encouragement, non-judgement and acceptance.

What I read is that words can heal wounds. That too is true. The salve of understanding, comfort and caring can sooth hurt feelings and strengthen our resolve to carry on.

In times of past troubles, I was often encouraged by the stories of others who had endured similar trials. It is natural to feel alone when dealing with addictions, mental illness, the disappearance of a loved one, or murder, because these subjects are not “coffee talk” and are, thankfully, beyond the comprehension of most “regular” people. Or so we think. We may not see the tragedies of other people’s lives because they may not wish to share.

Often I receive feedback that my words help others who feel unheard. So I saw the message as encouragement to keep going even though the journey can be overwhelming at times. My month of remembrance is almost over. A friend said she would like to a see a national month of awareness declared for the Missing and Murdered Women of Canada. Maybe that can happen. Many wounds need healing. It is easier to step back into life after grief if we know some good will come of the pain.